Connecting… the… Dots…


When I first took a leap of faith, and developed the ‘All But Homeless’ blog, I quite literally did not how I was going to put food on the table. Not to mention affording those unmentionables that nobody ever talks about but expects them to be there when you need them. I can’t express the indignity of these items NOT being there.

When a young person expresses to me that they can’t wait to grow, become an adult, or get out on their own.. I have always told them the same thing.

” Don’t be in such a hurry, when you grow up you have to buy your own toilet paper.”

Never in a million years, imagining a time when I wouldn’t be able to. Well at the risk of offering TMI, the time came. That’s the bad news.

The good news is, that life ( as we knew it ) IS most definitely improving! Slowly, but improving.

Thank you God, and thanks to those who were listening to ( an answering) that spirit.

Since I first went public with our desperate situation a little more than a month ago, we have had several people come forward to help.

As of this moment, we have had $85 deposited directly into our personal paypal account by three different individuals, we received a Publix Supermarket Gift Card for $40 AND… wer received (2) separate care packages. One arrived via USPS, and groceries were hand-delivered to our business by a man who befriended over the course of months through his visitations as a Jehovah’s Witness.

We have also had a local ministry come forward to lend their name, web presence and non-profit status to our cause which we think is amazing.

And just as important, people are LIKING, FOLLOWING and SHARING our story. As well, praying for us, and offering kind words of support.

In the last week, I received an amazing offer from a friend from another blog who wants to write an article about us. She also has pledged to send us a Walmart gift certificate. [ UPDATE :11:49 am EST : The mail man just delivered sunshine from Texas, the gift card and the article has been witten ] I reblogged for those interested. Thank you Mishi!

And last but not least, just within the last few days, I connected with another blogger who has pledged to contribute a portion of our mortgage payment each month for now, as well as get us some items from our Walmart Wishlist. I even had the pleasure of speaking with her on the telephone. She called from another far away country. That was so cool.

So I dare to say that these needed connections are being made, and bringing on a much needed change, not only in our financial situation, but in so many other ways.

I do pray that it continues in that vein.

Finally, I’d like to add that each of these generous gestures are no more important than any other.

They have all been quite significant to us, on may levels. And for each of them, we are eternally grateful.

God Bless you all!

~ C

Value Assessment


If you are reading this, chances are you are following our blog and if you are following our blog there must be a reason. ( >>> continued.. ) I’d like to think you are at the very least interested in our story. I’d love to think that some of you might even be concerned about our welfare, even if you are still struggling with the idea of helping.

With that said, I’d like to focus on the following quote.

“Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.”

This quote reminds me of a year or so ago, when we first realized we were deep financial trouble and how we were treated ( by most ( not all) in our family) when asking for help. How their responses or lack thereof made us feel. Kind of worthless is the best way I can describe it. Like we had no value at all. And at the risk of being redundant here. It HURTS! Does things to your self-esteem. Damages the psyche! It’s almost as if we were INVISIBLE! As if you don’t even EXIST to them anymore which at times, might seem THE blessing. One even begins to believe they have NO VALUE.

But I assure WE DO HAVE VALUE and we are WORTHY of the assistance we are asking for in this fundraising effort.

Most of who know us would say we are bright, talented, hard -working, spiritual and caring individuals. As a couple,one employer described us as dynamic. Our pets think we are pretty AWESOME too. We have a handful of GOOD friends who have been good to us and to whom we have been good to. Together and separately, we have been active in the community, have done volunteer work. Enjoyed success, hob-knobbed with the elite and at one time made it to everyone’s guest list socially. Ron has never had children of his own, but I gave birth to two children. Raised another as my own. We are grandparents. We are the nice people down the block who mind their own business and quietly go about their lives unless called upon.

All of which NOW means dittle squat! Money, Mnoey, Money! It causes so many problems. It changes people. But so neccesary in the real world.

Which is the reason we found it necessary to appeal to the public in this medium.

The hardest thing I think on this journey is assessing a monetary goal. It’s like trying to value ourselves in dollar and cents. I find it nearly impossible BUT I am going to attempt it here.

Ideally, $3000.00 is a realistic figure. This WILL NOT pay ALL of our debts off, but it will stop the bleeding and put us back on the road to recovery.

If we were able to raise that money it would no doubt be life-changing for us, we would pay two or three months mortgage payments, take care of the home maintenance ( we so desperately need) it would buy us a second-hand washer, pay current and past due utility bills. We would also have the money we need to rent a truck and move the contents of our thrift store into storage. The rest, we’d use for gas in our vehicle ( I call it running money) so we could get to and from job interviews and such. AND that my FRIENDS , would make the DIFFERENCE between sinking, and swimming.

Now saying that, I realize that it is very unlikely that one belevolent soul is going to come along and hand us a check for this amount, no questions asked. But I do think it is feesible IF enough people, were willing to do a little, in a short amount of time, this goal could be met.

Do you know, the $ 125.00 that we raised as a result of this fundraiser has made the difference between us eating and not? IT HAS!

So please NEVER underestimate your ability, to help someone ( whether it be us, someone closer to home, whoever)

To give you a little more perspective about our immediate needs . I know $15.00 will feed us for 2-3 days. $40.00 will feed us for about 5 days. $75.00 will feed us quite well for a week , $25.00 will pay a water bill. $184 will get our car insurance reinstated ( it lapsed on the 17th due to non payment ) $125.00 will buy us another week with the people who hold our mortgage. $431.87, will pay one, monthly mortgage payment. $144.00 will pay a light bill.

If you have questions, comments or concerns, please email us at : I will gladly disclose pertinent information to who would like, and in a position to help us. You can also get many of your questions answered by visiting the RED TABS pages section across the top of the page. Click on our donate page for several options on how you can help .

IF you can do nothing else, THANK YOU as always for LIKING, FOLLOWING and SHARING this blog with your friends and on your social media pages. WE need all the exposure we can get at this point. After all, this is all about numbers isn’t it?

Ok, enough said. I’m stepping down off my soap box now 😉

Thanks to all and to all, I wish you a WONDERFULLY, BLESSED DAY!

~ Cheryl